...are interested mostly about what the client wants, and how he is going to get it.

…are not interested in what the client wants to get rid of, and tries to forget.

…believe people are driven mostly by their desired yet uncertain future.

…do not believe people are controlled by some early childhood traumatic past

…tend to ask people about their strengths, abilities, and past successes

…avoid asking people about their weaknesses, shortages, and past faults.

…use the client’s own unique language.

…do not use any professional jargon.

...assist our clients, and usually get assistance from them in response.

...do not resist clients so we do not get resistance from them in reply.

…ask questions proven again and again to be useful.

…do not give answers proven to be useless.

…try to be helpful.

…do not try to be truthful.

…want our clients to live better after meeting with us.

…do not want to leave our footprints in clients’ lives.

…hope to assist every person we see become happier with himself and the people around him.

…do not hope to reconstruct anyone’s personality, family, or social systems.

…expect changes for the better to be inevitable, and so they happen.

…expect no resistance, transfer, or acting out, and so these do not happen.

…respect real life as it is and real people as they are.

…do not respect theories about how life should be or how people have become the way they are.

…focus on the possible solutions to the clients’ problems.

…do not focus on the possible causes to the clients’ problems.

…care that clients develop foresight.

…do not care if clients get any insight.

…value all people we meet.

…do not evaluate them.

…are experts in useful and helpful questioning.

…are not experts in sophisticated and clever answering.

…try to make people laugh, or at least smile in our sessions with them.

…do not try to make people go through catharsis or a dramatic experience

…agree we all need some help from time to time.

…do not agree anyone needs endless therapies all of his life.

…are interested in whether our clients consider our work in some way effective for them.

…are not interested in whether other professionals consider our work in some way defective.

…listen to people when they talk, and hear what they say.

…do not listen to concepts about what people hide when they talk.

…love seeing people and having human contact with them.

…hate establishing eye contact with people by staring at them.

…enjoy vivid descriptions and miracle stories.

…get bored by elaborate explanations and tragic stories.

…give homework tasks.

…do not give advice.

…look for our own mistakes when in doubt, and try to correct them.

…do not look for our clients’ wrong maps, and do not try to correct them.

…try to figure out what else might be helpful.

…do not try to find out what else might be wrong.

…take what we hear from clients at face value.

…do not analyze what we hear, trying to add our own value to it.

…hear only our clients’ actual voices.

…do not hear any hallucinatory voices.

…enjoy our work very much indeed.

…do not get much money from it.

…shall follow the solution-focused way, even though it is the road less taken.

…shall not enter the labyrinth of endless dead ends, even though it is the usual thing done.